I’m now on the 3rd day of my very own self-imposed 30-day blog post challenge which also propelled me to restart doing other things I love and one of those things is reading my books, particularly Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles. I bought this book in 2009. I started reading it and finished a few chapters, then life happened and before I know it, years have passed and I haven’t continued reading the book. So I started reading it again from Chapter 1. I remember blogging about it here too: HOW TO TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
I am currently in Chapter 26 when I thought to myself, why not continue blogging about it? That way, I get to analyze each chapter, be more conscious of applying the lessons and principles I learned, rather than just trying to finish the book?
So that’s what I’m doing for this post. I am going to share with you Jack Canfield’s Success Principle #2: Be Clear Why You’re Here.
For my previous posts of the first two days of this blog challenge, you may refer to them here:
Okay, so on to the 2nd success principle!
This is actually very timely for me to dissect it here because Mahal and I just had a fight (or was that just a minor disagreement?) Nevertheless, I was very much hurt with what transpired between us and it made me question our relationship. Why am I here? What am I doing this for? Why am I living the kind of life I am living now? As Jack Canfield said “WHAT WERE YOU PUT ON THIS EARTH TO DO?”
To be honest, as I am writing this, I still don’t have the answers. Maybe because I am too busy earning a living for us, supporting Mahal’s dreams, and taking care of Tuz that I am lost in the midst of it all. So let’s go back to what Jack Canfield’s second principle is teaching and maybe by the time I am done writing this post, I would already have an answer.
WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE?
“To be on purpose means you are doing what you love to do, doing what you’re good at and accomplishing what’s important to you. When you truly are on purpose, the people, resources, and opportunities you need naturally gravitate toward you. The world benefits, too, because when you act in alignment with your true life purpose, all of your actions automatically serve others.”
Brian Tracy said that we have to decide on our major definite purpose in life and then organize all our activities around it.
WHAT IS THE WHY IN EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO?
Okay, so let me list down first what I do so I can figure out what the WHYs are:
- I take care of Tuz.
- I support Mahal in building his farm and agribiz dreams.
- I take care of our home.
- I help my clients in their businesses.
- I travel with my family to relax and de-stress.
- I blog to express myself, share my life and hopefully inspire others to live a good life and become better versions of themselves.
- I sometimes spend time with friends whenever I can.
- I explore and do other things I love when I have the time, energy and resources for them.
So why am I doing all of these?
- because I want a better life for me and my family
- because I want to be self-sufficient
- because I want to be happy
- because I want to inspire others live a good life
- because I want to keep learning and expanding my horizons
BE CONSCIOUS OF YOUR INNER GUIDING SYSTEM
We all have an inner guiding system that lets us know when we are on purpose. It’s when we feel the most joy. So when do you feel most joyful? What are you doing when you are most happy? List the things that you do that truly make you happy and figure out a way to make a living doing those things.
As for me, those things I listed above, those things really make me happy. I love being a mom to Tuz! He is such a miraculous bundle of joy! I love helping out Mahal in whatever way I can because I believe in his capabilities and skills and I know that he is doing it for us as well. I love doing chores and I’ve been this way since I was a little girl — always OC, cleaning and organizing our home. I love doing the work that I do for my clients because I am good at it, I learn a lot, and I apply some of the things I learn into other areas of my work and personal life. I love traveling! When we do have more money, I want to travel the world! I love blogging! I love writing down my thoughts, feelings, learnings, and experiences. I don’t talk much but as you can see, I like to write a lot. When I start writing, it’s sometimes hard for me to stop (hence, my long blog posts from time to time). I love spending time with the few friends I have left. I get to learn more about myself and my life in general whenever I’m with them. And lastly, I love exploring other things, other hobbies, other activities because they bring a little more excitement to my existence.
Having said all that, perhaps, I am on purpose, I just didn’t know it yet.
WRITE DOWN YOUR PURPOSE
Jack Canfield has an exercise in his book to help you write down your purpose in one paragraph and I’ll try to write it down here. Here’s a photo I took of that page which I filled out a couple of years ago.
I think the essence of my purpose that I’ve written in there still holds true until today — MY PURPOSE IS TO USE MY OPTIMISM AND INDUSTRY TO SUPPORT AND INSPIRE OTHERS BECOME HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, AND WEALTHY IN THEIR RESPECTIVE LIVES.
Once you’ve already pinned down what your purpose is, recite it every morning in front of a mirror. This will remind you what you are here for and this will help you prioritize your tasks and activities for the day, making sure that you will only do those things that support your purpose. You can even make a vision board out it, write it down, turn it into a collage or painting and hang it on your wall or on your fridge so that you can always see it to help keep you on track.
If you still don’t know what your purpose is, meditation will help. Sit quietly every morning for a few minutes and ask yourself what your purpose is. Let the answer come to you and don’t limit what you think. Be as expansive. The important thing to note is how inspired you will feel when the answer comes to you for real.
As for me, I think it’s time to kiss and make up with Mahal. This exercise has been helpful. It reminded me that I am on purpose with my relationship with him and right now, at this very moment, that is all that matters.
Happy purposing! ^_^