This is my 18th day of consecutive blogging and I’m happy to say that I haven’t faltered (yet — hopefully, I won’t ever) in my renewed commitment to do one of my first loves which is writing, hurray! I first did this last year, month of May, for my 30-day blogging challenge, which I finished with flying colors. But after that, I went radio silent again for some time before I blogged again. This time, I want to do this for as long as I am alive and not just 30 days. In poker speak, we must always up our ante! So I’m giving myself a little pat on my back for having done this for 18 days straight so far. Hurray for little triumphs like this!
I think one of the major things that really helped me focus on my commitment to blog daily are the teachings of Tony Robbins, particularly about “raising your standards”. As Tony Robbins said:
“Upgrade your standards… When you raise your standards and you turn your “should” into “must,” you are making an inner shift to take control over the quality of your life. Any area you are not getting what you want is because you haven’t raised your standards…”
I did this, although unconsciously after my ex left me and I went on a journey to find a better man. I raised my standards and told myself that should I ever find love again, or should love find me, the next and last man I will open my heart to MUST be the exact opposite of my ex-hubby. And there was Mahal, my ladybug (allegory to love in Under the Tuscan Sun), teehee.
I think I also raised my standards when I finally told myself in 2014 that I MUST have a family. It’s no longer a SHOULD but a MUST. I really want it despite the fact that I was husbandless and probably barren. Notice the difference? When it’s a “should”, it’s like there’s an external force pushing you to do what you should do. That external force could be coming from your family, or friends, or our society in general. But if it’s a MUST, “you are making an inner shift to take control over the quality of your life”… the force is now coming from INSIDE OF YOU instead of outside of you… you will now create or make a way for yourself to make the things you want to happen, really happen.
So how do we raise our own standards? The following steps below are what I did to raise my own standards and I’m hoping they might help you too:
1. Choose what you focus on
This led me to say no to things that don’t support my goal and saying yes to things that do support it.
For example, I want to blog every day. It’s not only more time I need, but more energy too. But we all only have 24 hours a day. How come others are able to do it and some of us can’t? Let me tell you that it’s not about having enough time, my friend. IT’S ABOUT ENERGY. ENERGY IS EVERYTHING. And if you focus on things that don’t support your goal, your time doesn’t only come ticking by, but your energy dwindles as well. Even if you still have the time to blog for example, but you no longer feel energized and inspired to do it, you won’t be able to do it, otherwise, it will be a chore. So for me, this means no more mindless scrolling of my social media feeds because it drains my limited energy; no more watching TV and Youtube mindlessly as well (thankfully, I haven’t subscribed to Netflix, I heard it’s addicting); no more puttering around the farm and the house doing nothing.
Another example… I must bring back my sexy body. Hence, I’ve cut down on junk food; I took out salt in my cooking; I no longer use white or brown sugar when I make my own coffee and tea, I use my own Stevia plant instead when there’s a harvest, and I now stick to my 7-minute HIIT workout every day. I will choose to do more drastic changes in the next couple of weeks like eat only 1 cup of rice a day. I’ll update you on that when it happens.
2. Be mindful of how you communicate with yourself.
Tony Robbins said that the quality of your life is the quality of your communication, starting with yourself. Remember when I blogged about that time Mahal and I had our worst fights? It was all because of how I communicated with myself. It was all about the meaning I attached to some of the things he’s done. Instead of me thinking positive thoughts about it, I put negative meanings to his actions which led to our fights that we almost broke up.
Since then, and through Tony Robbins’ teachings, I’ve been more mindful of my thoughts and the meanings I attach to my experiences. After all, it is not really the lack or abundance of a thing (be it money, affection, material things, praises, etc.) that makes us happy or sad but it’s the meaning we attach to our lack or abundance of it.
So if I think that I should blog because I said so in a blog post a long time ago, do you think I will power through? I might have already given up a few days into it because of how hectic my schedule is like. But if the thought and meaning I attach to it go like: “I will blog again today because it helps me grow as a better writer and as a better person and it makes me really happy”, then by hook or by crook, I will make it a priority! I actually do it now during the first few hours after I wake up. I’ve been consistently waking up between 12:30 am – 2 am Philippine Time which is 12PM EST and by 4 (after I do my morning rituals and a little social media work for two of my clients) I’m already writing and by 6 or 7 I’m already publishing my post. It is one of my priorities now, rather than an afterthought at the end of my day when my energy has already dwindled from working all day.
Those are just the two steps I use to help me get what I want —
- Choose what to focus on, meaning, choose your decisions well because your decisions are what ultimately will make you happy or bring you misery.
- Then try as best you could to be mindful of how you communicate with yourself and with others so that your state of mind will be at peace, because when you’re at peace, you get to have more energy to do what you want even if you have little time left, agree?
Suffice it to say that I’ve been consistently listening to Tony Robbins’ podcasts and Youtube videos Mahal downloaded for us and I find his teachings VERY HELPFUL and LIFE-CHANGING especially in terms of getting what I want.
The past ten days, because I’ve been a lot happier than usual, I notice other areas of my life are benefiting too. I’ve now been sleeping for 8-10 hours a day since last Saturday. I was surprised to find out that my savings have increased (maybe because I haven’t been mindlessly spending my money just to make myself happy… I’m already happy!) And we have more food than we could ever finish in a week! Living on a farm has so many benefits after all… there’s always food, fresh air, nature at its finest so to speak.
In case you’re not a Tony Robbins fan yet, and you need help in raising the quality of your life, download his Youtube videos or listen to his podcasts. I promise you, it will change your life for the better! It might be hard at first because we, humans, tend to be all-knowing and proud and we don’t like it when someone tells us to our face that what we’ve been doing is wrong, but with a little humility and acceptance that you don’t know anything really (You know nothing, Jon Snow, lol!), that’s when you start to know more and apply more. Like what one of my favorite philosophers, Socrates, said “I don’t know anything”. When you admit that you know nothing, that’s when you begin to get smart. It just means that the knowledge you have is nothing compared to the vastness of what you could still learn… So, just open your mind and a whole new better world will open for you.
Here’s one of his videos about raising your standards:
Having said all that, I hope this blog post will help or inspire you in any way. If there’s a topic you’d like me to write about, please let me know! Enjoy the rest of your week!
TODAY’s HOT TIP!
“Small deeds done are better than great deeds planned.” – Peter Marshall
See you tomorrow!